It has been seen that "Tiger Moms" are actually doing more harm than good. "In her controversial memoir, 'Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,' Yale law professor Amy Chua defended her draconian parenting methods, explaining how being a controlling "Chinese-style" parent drives Asian-American children to succeed in ways that permissive "Western-style" parenting does not. But a recently released decade-long study of 444 Chinese-American families shows that the effect tiger parents have on their kids is almost exactly the opposite." Compared with suppportive parenting methods, "tiger parenting" seemed to lead to lower GPA's, less commitment to family, symptoms of depression, and a greater sense of alienation.
It makes sense that this method of parenting would not be the best way to raise a child. Putting a little pressure on kids to succeed is one thing but as soon as there is too much, bad consequences will ensue. Kim Wong Ketner even stated "The typical tiger mom attitude, she says, is actually a lot like bullying -- and has similar devastating effects."
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I am a strong believer in the line between support and pressure.. And with adolescents and where they are at developmentally, pressure=rebelling usually.
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